THE LAST PAGE (thoughts, reflections & stories)
BACKWARDS MATH
I’ve mentioned it before, but it bears repeating: we are so proud of our boys and how well they’re doing in both sets of school – Paraguayan and American. Today we finished our year of home-schooling, so they’ll have two weeks of neither set of classes!
Nathan is doing a remarkable job keeping up with math in both systems, despite major potential confusion. The Paraguayan way of doing division is completely backwards and upside down from how we do it. See if you can decipher this long division problem: (note from blogmaster: if you really want to try to see how this works, try writing the numbers in two columns with a vertical line between. Only 63 and 782 are on the right side, the rest are on the left. Have fun!)
49320 63
522 782
180
(54)
In English we’d write the same problem:
782 r. 54
63│49320
441
522
504
180
126
54
Because Nathan learned the Paraguayan way first, our American way of doing it seems backwards to him. As I help him work his way through it, I can’t help but reflect on the “backwards math” of our church plant. Our goal is “multiplication.” Win people to Christ who will win others, who will in turn reach others . . . At best we’re doing very small “addition” – slowly, a bit at a time, a new person comes to church and/or comes to Christ. But in the frustrating times it seems like it’s “subtraction” – believers drifting away from the church and their Lord or just moving away to Buenos Aires. And we pray against “division” – immature people clashing over minor issues that split groups in the church. In such times we must cling to the hope that God, the Lord of the harvest, is also the God of multiplication and will bring about the kind of math we’re praying for in Yuty! (In His time, of course. This advanced math doesn’t come quickly.)
PARTYING FOR JESUS?
You wouldn’t think that part of our job description as “church planter” would include “going to parties.” But since we have arrived in Yuty we’ve attended many. We have asked you to pray that we would be salt and light in this community, and that our presence here – even at parties! – would make a difference. Two of this month’s parties illustrate how God is answering your prayers.
June is “John the Baptist party” month in Paraguay. Schools take advantage of the traditional holiday to sponsor a party as a fundraiser, and the traditional food and games (many involving fire) attract a crowd. When the administration of our boys’ elementary school asked us if we would rent them our sound equipment for the party, Dan refused. But he did say that if they didn’t sell alcohol at the party he would lend our sound equipment for free, never considering they would take us up on the offer. To our great surprise, the principal said she thought it was a great idea. She’s never really liked the fact that they sell alcohol at an elementary school, family party. When she presented the idea to the parent commission, to our even greater surprise, they accepted the idea, too. So for perhaps the first time in the history of San Juan parties in the Yuty area, there was no alcohol sold! (Dan even got to play Christian music for the first bit of the party, before the designated music CD showed up!) When the police arrived part way through the party, the principal told me, “Well they won’t have any work to do tonight!” Thankfully, she was right and there wasn’t any trouble with the nearly 1,000 people present. Now we’re praying that they saw such a difference without alcohol that they’ll want to continue the tradition even when free sound equipment isn’t in the equation.
Birthdays are the most common types of parties we attend. This is usually not an event that includes men, so just the boys and I go. There aren’t any games like we have at parties in the U.S. Instead, we sit, get fed, pose for a picture, and get a treat bag to take home. We go as often as we’re invited, even though it’s not Nathan and Samuel’s favorite activity. This month the daughter of a couple who had taken our marriage class turned one. After the party was over, I gave some people a ride home as it was raining. The lady in the front passenger seat was a woman whose six year old son had died two weeks earlier, after five months in intensive care in Asuncion. He had been hit by a car when he ran out into the street after his ball. Meeting her and giving her a ride opened the door for a relationship, and we have now had multiple visits and a significant conversation together at a key time of deep mourning and loss in her life. I have been able to contrast what she heard the priest say at her son’s funeral: “This boy did not die for his own sin; he was innocent and had no sin. He died because of the sin of his parents” with the comforting news that God understood her pain uniquely as He, too, experienced the loss of His Son. I pray that as we spend more time together she will grow to understand God’s love and forgiveness that gives us the hope of eternal life, rather than the condemning, wrathful, unjust God that has been presented to her. To think that this opportunity arose because we went to a birthday party!
ANOTHER WORLD
We arrived in Paraguay more than 14 years ago, and in many ways it has come to be our home. Yet in other ways it is still another world for us. We try to help people through problems we will never experience and can’t really comprehend.
A lady from a village visited to tell us the story of her son’s imprisonment due to confusion over a dead cow. A cow he had been responsible for swallowed a grapefruit and died, and while they were butchering the meat another cow in the village was rustled and killed. Being found with the meat of a dead cow, he was accused of rustling and killing the stolen animal and was arrested. Thanks to a lawyer, he was released after just a couple days in jail. But the fees they now owe the lawyer add up to more money than they would see in years and years of work on their subsistence farm.
This month we also walked with a family whose husband/dad had died suddenly, the very night his daughter was married in Buenos Aires. The family faced the crisis of what to do with the body – wait until his wife and three daughters arrived from BA, or follow the law and bury him within 24 hours? No one knew what would happen if the unpreserved body in its open coffin stayed laying in the living room for 48 hours. How do we help a mourning family walk through this difficult decision we would never have to face? (They ended up getting permission from government officials to wait. Thanks to the cold weather, the body was fine, the rest of the family arrived, and Dan did a great job of presenting the gospel at the graveside service.)
And so we continue to live in this place where we are in some ways fitting in well and in other ways so foreign. It causes me to reflect on Jesus’ life on earth – how, though he was made a man, it must have always seemed like another world to him. Yet unlike us, he knew how to perfectly help those around him, even though they faced problems he would never experience. Praise God for our Incarnate Lord and his willingness to come to “another world” to save us!
OUR HEROS
Meet Mercedes, a short, chubby woman whose face beams the biggest smile you’ve ever seen. She and her husband run a store in the poor part of town, and she has recently opened up an empty house they own for the neighborhood’s weekly Bible study. This week she added a “chocolatada” – a hot chocolate & cookies party – to the study. Despite a bad headache all afternoon, she swept the dirt patio clean in anticipation of the night’s gathering. She made multiple trips on foot from her house, carrying the heavy charcoal brazier and other supplies she was donating for the evening’s snack. Kids started to arrive early in anticipation of the cup of hot chocolate, and as Mercedes prepared the food and drink we sang songs with the kids. Their faces shone as they jumped around singing active songs about how great God’s love is and how we need to read the Bible and pray. By the time Mercedes had served the snack, there were 29 kids (more to come later) and ten adults. Then the lesson started. The kids, piled up on the insufficient chairs and benches, listened attentively throughout even though the two-year-old with Down ’s syndrome crawled mischievously throughout the group. So the 30 kids and 10 adults listened to Dan telling the story of Noah, learned to tell the story through repetition, and then listened as Mercedes (who was rotating throughout the group during the study serving hot mate to the adults) was the first to repeat the story by herself. Not only did she get the story perfectly, but she added a great little application at the end. I don’t know if any polished preacher’s “Do you hear me?” at the end of a sermon was answered as enthusiastically as this group’s response to Mercedes, and they burst into applause when she was done.
Meet Ema, our maid and substitute mom/grandma, who has one of the weekly Bible studies at her house. This week some of the people from the Bible study in the above paragraph went to Ema’s house to make up the study they had missed in their neighborhood the week before. Ema was sad to see that one of the ladies was completely illiterate (as are most of the adults in Mercedes’ study.) Ema told her that until recently she hadn’t known how to read, either, but how she had learned how by listening to us read the Bible to her. Desperate for this friend to have the delight she’s experienced of reading (both the Bible and our song sheet,) she offered to go to this lady’s house during this winter vacation to read to her!! Maybe Sabina will learn to read, too.
FROM THE KIDS
Thanks to lots of young visitors this month (six of the seven kids who stayed here without their parents are younger than Nathan), we’ve got extra quotes:
Caleb, age 3:
“Jesus doesn’t hold guns. He can just carry lambs.”
When I looked at a puzzle he’d put together and asked, “Did you do that!?”: “I did did that!”
At Sunday School, in the moment of silence after all the kids had gone around and said their names: “Can I talk now? I just want to say something . . .” (anticipatory pause) “Cinco!”
{We’re re-learning English with the Caleb’s family, our South African colleagues. I thought I was ready for the language barrier, already knowing the American equivalents of costume, torch, nappy, just now, biscuit, pavement, and many more. But just since they’ve arrived we’ve also learned spanner, heavies, brolly, Standard 1-6, Rooibos . . . and that “lucked out” has a complete opposite meaning in the U.S. and South Africa!}
David, age 4:
Overhearing a Christmas carol: “Little Lord Jesus? That doesn’t make sense. God makes sense.” (Profoundly true, eh? To quote another Christmas carol, “Hail the incarnate deity!” The infinite God of the universe becoming a little baby is indeed hard for our finite minds to grasp, whether we are 4, 44, or 94!)
At bedtime: “If I’m way too sleepy, can I sleep over half of the night?”
Dictating an anniversary note to his parents: “I hope you don’t do anything bad.”
Curious about the rules of the house: “Am I allowed to do anything I want?”
Samuel:
Searching for a word for my hairstyle (definitely not common vocabulary in our male-dominated house!): “Piggy tail? Donkey tail?” Rescued by Nathan: “PONY tail!”
“How on earth are you supposed to sit up? I can see ‘stand up’ and ‘sit down,’ but sit up?”
Nathan:
Over the din of the neighbor’s squealing pig, who’s sometimes so loud we have to pause our conversation: “I hate that pig. I hope he tastes better than he sounds.”